The Guilty Person
By Dee Peel
My previous message explained how a Life Coach helps a client self-assess the type of person they are. There are four types to choose from, starting with the No-Clue Person I described last week. This message looks at The Guilty Person.
Dr. Katie Brazelton, founder of Life Purpose Coaching Centers International, described this person as saying “I understand what I’m supposed to do because I have heard God’s call. There is no doubt in my mind as to my assignment, but I am having a great deal of difficulty focusing on it, getting organized around it, and not being afraid of it.” This person is attempting to work on his/her current life purposes but gets sidetracked by life issues and fear. This person needs some mentors, role models, and accountability partners to offer encouragement to help offset the feeling of being loaded down with guilt over nonperformance issues.
Nonperformance issues! Where do I begin?
Am I good enough? As a wife, a mother, member of society, employee, volunteer, church member? Am I contributing enough to (fill in the blank). Am I pretty, do I weigh too much, am I healthy? Am I raising kids to be responsible, giving, loving people? Will I ever be the loving and encouraging wife Super Dad deserves? Am I making enough money? Am I spending too much? Do I have enough knowledge? Can I remember bible passages? Can I pray with someone? Will I sound stupid?
The patterns of my purpose could be seen throughout my life. At 14 I was told I was a good listener and made people feel better. I was never afraid to talk about the hard stuff or be bold in what someone needed to hear. Ok, I learned to be compassionate in my approach, talk with a more soothing tone, adjust my facial expressions, and stop “shoulding” on people. That wisdom came with maturity and self-confidence. The gifts were always there and periodically used. But, I kept loading on the guilt, life issues, fear, and mistaken thoughts about myself.
Once the roadblocks are discovered, addressed, and removed, we are free of the stinkin’ thinkin’ we have about ourselves. That is the basis of a partnership with a Life Coach. Discovery, addressing issues and setting plans in place to move forward, out of the ditch we’ve put ourselves, with our wrong thoughts and beliefs.
Romans 8:15 reminds us “The Spirit you received does not make you slaves, so that you live in fear again; rather, the Spirit you received brought about your adoption to sonship. And by him we cry, ‘Abba, Father’.”
In accepting the Spirit, we are adopted as God’s children, rescued so sin no longer has a hold on us, no longer slaves, but freedom in knowing we are his! Peace and hope replace guilt and fear!
Do you have stinkin’ thinkin’ about yourself? Guilt and fear that stifle you from doing what you know God has planned for you? Share them below in the comments or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org